Examples of thinking words instead of an angry shout to 12 years old below
Discipline is difficult for kids who have problems in submitting to authority. It’s hard for parents to keep it cool and bursting in anger doesn’t help at all. Shouting and angry words are a BIG NO. Instead, use “thinking words”.
→ Consequences of angry and hurtful words and how to fix it
Parent – “Hey, you don’t turn your back when I am talking, I am your mother!”
Thinking words “You can turn your back after I am done talking, this will be done quickly if I am talking eye to eye with you” (Proverbs 15:1)
Parent – “How many times have I called your attention, are you deaf?”
Thinking words – “The rule in the house says we only call you once. I have been calling you for (certain times) and I have to implement the consequences.” (Proverbs 12:18)
→ To spank or not to spank?
Parent – “I told you to study!”
Thinking words – “The time we have now is for studying, the soonest you finish, the soonest you can have your free time” (Proverbs 16:21)
Parent – “Please finish your food and eat your vegetables”
Thinking words – “The soonest you clear your plate, the soonest you can have your free time, you know the rules”; “I know you don’t like vegetables, but your tummy loves it, make it happy.” (Proverbs 16:22-23)
Parent – “Stop that, its irritating”
Thinking words – Ignore and say “I love you too much when you do that!” (Proverbs 16:22-23)
→ How I managed to make my kids obey rules