Important Biblical lessons that shape kid’s school academic behavior
The key in having high grades at school is hard work and consistency, but without a good character, it’s just an academic gain, not really an advantage. Character shapes the future of an individual.
I’m blessed to have kids that consistently have straight A’s and 5.0 GPA. Biblical discipline and prayer have a lot to do with it. Sure we want our kids to be competitive, but keep in mind that character will always be better than good grades.
1. Time Management: Ecclesiastes 3
The first discipline a child needs to learn when it comes to school is time habits. Although the context of Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 may be different, the principle is the same: There is a time to play, a time to sleep, and a time study.
Rules should be clear as early as age four. In our home, weekdays are for studying – no exceptions unless its a holiday. The key objective is to develop certain habits that they can carry as they grow into adults.
When children as young as seven years old learn to be independent in their studies, they learn the value of responsibility. Procrastination is a bad habit that can be avoided if they have learned to value time.
2. Probity: Proverbs 12:22
Truth is truth, and a half-truth is dishonesty. It’s similar to “one multiplied by zero” is still zero. Probity is the quality of having strong moral principles, honesty, and decency. Never lie to anyone, especially to your kids.
Children surrounded with people who always “speak the truth in love” will learn the value of honesty. It will be innate for them to hate cheating in an exam and will likely study to prepare for it. Teachers are mostly impressed with honest children and are often rewarded. Those who are dishonest are marked.
Truth is truth, and a half-truth is dishonesty.
3. Promise keeper: Matthew 5:37
A child’s brain is like a sponge. Neuroscientist estimate it can store up to 2.5 petabytes. Thus, broken promises stored in their brain can have a lasting impact on their adult behavior. Parents must take extra care even on small promises they make.
A broken heart because of broken promises is excess baggage that can have lasting effects. If a child brings this to school, he/she may subconsciously see classmates or teachers as untrustworthy.
4. Cheerful Giver: 2 Corinthians 9:7
When kids see us helping other people indiscriminately, what we are telling them is to accept and love people. The greatest commandment of Jesus is “to love one another, ” and the little good things we do to others are important for our children to see. What impacts our children are those we do naturally, they will know if it is an authentic act of love and not some show you need to put on.
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One of my tear jerk moments was when I saw my son give tithes for the first time, which he decided on his own. Though it was only a dollar, he had all smiles on his face.
If a child is used to sharing, they become less materialistic. Looking fashionable or having the latest gadget in school would not be a priority. The best way to help them absorb the true meaning of giving is by encouraging them to share what they already have.
If a child is used to sharing, they become less materialistic.
5. Speak life!: Proverbs 18:21
I’ve been praying for my children even before they were born, and I have seen the power of prayers. The science behind prayers has been discussed in philosophy, history, medicine, and psychology. Science recognizes that prayers may result in benefits that are due to divine intervention (NCBI).
Not all prayers are the same. It differs on who the object of your prayer is. Scriptures is clear in telling us that Jesus is our intercessor if we are to ask God for anything (John 15:6). We should pray for everything (Philippians 4:6). When you declare words of life to them, you are covering them in prayer. Here are examples of what you can “declare” as they leave for school:
“Shalom! God bless you.”
“I declare victory and power for your game today.”
“The Lord be with you, blessings in your exam.”
6. Prayerful Life: Philippians 4:6
There are no perfect parents and the most powerful principle in helping your kids succeed is by praying for them. Many times, parents will not really know how to discipline or push children to study more or be diligent. I myself is lost for words, distressed, or hopeless when my teens are defiant at times. It’s only through prayers that I am revived from my hopelessness.
Truth is, only God can change hearts, but we need to ask the Holy Spirit to move. Thankfully, we can do that through Jesus.
When our kids see us pray, they too will likely be prayerful. Because we pray all the time, my kids too developed a habit for praying, not only before an exam but also as the day begins.
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7. Rest: Genesis 2:2
On the seventh day, God rested from creating. He has incorporated resting in all His creation and study reveals that people who live for seven hours live longest.
Finland is second in science, third in reading and sixth in math among nearly half a million students worldwide. One of their strategies is the ‘physical leisure’ they implement among young students.
If your child has enough sleep and physical activities, study and concentration will not be a problem. This combination help release dopamine (happy hormone) in the brain, that makes us feel good.
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