Important Biblical lessons that shape kid’s school academic behavior
The key to having high grades at school is hard work and consistency, but without a good character, it’s just an academic gain, not really an advantage. Character shapes the future of an individual.
I’m blessed to have kids that consistently have straight A’s and 5.0 GPA. Biblical discipline and prayer have a lot to do with it. Sure we want our kids to be competitive, but keep in mind that character will always be better than good grades.
1. Forced Priority
There’s a time for everything
Equally important with hard work is the right priority. We can work hard at something that’s not really important. Although the context of Ecclesiastes may be different, the principle is the same; there is a time to play, a time to sleep, and a time study.
Rules should be clear as early as age four to about twelve. In our home, weekdays are for studying – no exceptions. At this age, you have to force and teach the kind of priority suited for them. Otherwise, they won’t have any at all.
When children as young as seven learn to be independent, they learn the value of responsibility. Procrastination is a bad habit that can be avoided if they have learned to value time.
The Lord detests lying but delights in trustworthiness.
Truth is truth, and a half-truth is dishonesty. It’s similar to “one multiplied by zero” is still zero. Probity is the quality of having strong moral principles, honesty, and decency. Never lie to anyone, especially to your kids.
Right is right; wrong is wrong
This happened to one of my children who refused to wear the proper uniform because others wore improper attire anyways. The school failed to implement rules that should apply equally, resulting in a half-truth in the uniform policy. Truth became relative to him.
Children surrounded by people who always “speak the truth in love” will learn the value of honesty. It will be innate for them to hate cheating in an exam and will likely study to prepare for it. Teachers are mostly impressed with honest children and are often rewarded. Those who are dishonest are marked.
3. Promise Keeper
Let your yes be yes and no be no.
A child’s brain is like a sponge. Neuroscientists estimate it can store up to 2.5 petabytes. Thus, broken promises stored in their brains can have a lasting impact on their adult behavior. Parents must take extra care even on small promises they make.
What if you fail?
No parent is perfect but if you break a promise, the only thing to do is say a simple sorry. Humility is not a weakness. If parents are genuinely honest, humble, and forgiving, their children will likely inherit these values.
A broken heart because of broken promises is excess baggage that can have lasting effects. If a child brings this to school, he/she may subconsciously see classmates or teachers as untrustworthy.
4. Cheerful Giver
2 Corinthians 9:7
Give as one has decided in his heart.
When we expose our kids to helping the poor, it can drive them to study harder (NCBI). In fact, volunteer work experience is now a requirement in scholarship applications. The greatest commandment of Jesus is “to love one another,” and the little good things we do to others are important for our children to see.
If a child is used to sharing, they become less materialistic. Looking fashionable or having the latest gadget in school would not be a priority. The best way to help them absorb the true meaning of giving is by encouraging them to share what they already have.
What impacts our children are those we do naturally, they will know if it is an authentic act of love and not some show you need to put on.
If a child is used to sharing, they become less materialistic.
5. Speak Life!
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
We all know that encouraging words are powerful. As Christians, we can turn these words as prayers and powerful declarations. Science recognizes that prayers may result in benefits that are due to divine intervention (NCBI). Likewise, studies confirm that positive words reduce depressive symptoms and play a significant role in shaping children’s motivation.
Not all prayers are the same. It differs on who the object of your prayer is. Scriptures is clear in telling us that Jesus is our intercessor alone (John 15:6). We should pray for everything (Philippians 4:6). When you declare words of life to them, you are covering them in prayer. Here are examples of what you can “declare” as they leave for school:
“Shalom! God bless you.”
“I declare victory and power for your game today.”
“The Lord be with you, blessings in your exam.”
6. Praying Parent
Present your request to God.
The best gift you can give to your child is to pray every day for them. Many times, I myself is lost for words, distressed, or hopeless when my teens become defiant. It’s only through prayers that I am revived from my hopelessness.
Truth is, only God can change hearts, but we need to ask the Holy Spirit to move. Thankfully, we can do that through Jesus. Remember, Satan wants to destroy each family that loves God. Pray at all times.
When our kids see us pray, they too will likely be prayerful. Because we pray all the time, my kids too developed the habit of praying, especially when there’s an exam.
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God incorporated resting in all His creation. In fact, a study reveals that people who live for seven hours live longest. Finland is second in science, third in reading and sixth in math among nearly half a million students worldwide. One of their strategies is the ‘physical leisure’ they implement among young students.
If your child has enough sleep and physical activities, study and concentration will not be a problem. This combination helps release dopamine (happy hormone) in the brain, which makes the brain feel good.
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